Sunday, October 26, 2014

Seeking Co-Organizers & Collaborators to Plan a Radical Queer Play Party


YOOO-HOOO - ANNOUNCEMENT: Calling all kinky kweens, faeries, fags, femmes, dykes, tranimals, gender out-laws and other sexy in-betweens!

My friend Hyphen and I have done some initial legwork to organize a real, sexy, radical, queer, play party in Brooklyn later this fall. We have a date, a space, and a creative concept for the party worked out. In addition, we intend for the party to raise money for a venerable radical queer non-profit institution here in the city: Le Petit Versailles!


This all-gender play party will be hot and sexy, and the antithesis of sex parties that are only for certain in-groups, narrowly defined fetish groups, people of a specific color, ethnicity, or body type. Queer-identifying people across the entire spectrum of human sexuality are welcome. We don’t even want cost to be a barrier for you to attend, so we will follow faerie tradition with a “more if you can, less if you can’t” admission policy. When we say radical, that’s what we mean.


We believe that a healthy, sex-positive, intentional community is one that has regular space to come together to safely negotiate consensual boundaries. How else can you build an army of lovers? We will not fail!* And we hope you can join us for our inaugural event in early December.


Right now, we're making a special appeal to the kinky set to ensure this party is off the charts. We need help to make this happen. So, we will be meeting both at Hyphen's house AND via Google hangout (so you can log on from wherever!) to discuss details next Tuesday, Oct 28th @ 8 PM. Jason & I organize with a non-hierarchical momentum-based decision making process.


IF YOU'D LIKE TO HELP US ORGANIZE, please reply to this post.

Email me back and I'll add you to the organizer list.


-+-+-+ Sappho’s Reply +-+-+-



My voice rings down through thousands of years
To coil around your body and give you strength,
You who have wept in direct sunlight,
Who have hungered in invisible chains,
Tremble to the cadence of my legacy:
An army of lovers shall not fail.


From The Hand That Cradles the Rock © 1974 by Rita Mae Brown

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Sunday, June 16, 2013

Once upon a time there was a forest

Originally published in RFD No. 154 Summer 2013. RFD is a reader-created gay quarterly celebrating queer diversity.

This is the story of a forest that came to life, once upon a time, inside a large warehouse loft in an industrial corner of Brooklyn. The Forest of the Future, as it was known, was a place like never seen before, in which all manner of magical creatures — visual artists, performers, political activists, storytellers, sex workers, techno-witches, kitchen wizards and radical faeries — came together to collaborate in a kind of autonomous creative zone they had built for themselves and their communities.

The artists and organizers who created this forest had a rather queer intention with respect to the legends it would reference and the legacies it would engender. They built it as a symbolic space in which to nurture a strategic shift in the cultural perception and construction of gender itself. Everyone who entered was invited to sow seeds of trans-formation within their own hearts, minds and bodies, and to cultivate in themselves a commitment to tranifest a radically better world for all people.


Forest of the Future: A Sanctuary at the Edge of the World
By Ricardo Nelson on Vimeo.

During its very short life — just two weeks in early March 2013 — the forest was host to a series of events that included performances, photo lectures, film screenings, parties, sharing circles and more. The Summit of Stories was perhaps the most rare among them, in which advocates for queer, trans, and third-gender rights — from places as varied as Sweden, Nepal, Germany, Brazil and Kyrgyzstan — held a teach-in to share with one another tales of their struggles around the world, strategic advice and resources. Both the Forest and the Summit were produced with funds raised through private donations, and matched by a very generous foundation.

Sadly, like so many dreams, this fantasy forest could not last forever. But to keep its memory alive, I asked Quito Ziegler and Bizzy Barefoot — two of the principal artist-activists in this story — to tell us about it in their own words. What was The Forest of the Future, I asked, and what was its significance?

Bizzy Barefoot: It never was quite the same thing from the very first moment to its last moment. But, from conception to end, it was a place of community deepening and coalescing. It was a forest in which we could truly curl up and find our heart-space with one another.

Quito Ziegler: It started out as a dream. It was a vision rooted in different experiences and impulses of mine towards building communities, towards drawing different people and things together, towards creating space for artists to just create and be without the pressures of finances or time. In that way, it was also a gift. It was a gift of resources that was given to me that I wanted to give to my community.

Frank Susa: There was a moment when we were sitting around together in the space and Bizzy said, “We are inside Quito’s dream.” I knew what you meant. I knew that I was also inside my own dream at the same time. And I was obviously somehow also inside yours as well, Bizzy. How was that for you, knowing that there were all these people inside your dream and dreaming along with you?

QZ: I’ve never wanted to be alone in my process of dreaming. Never. How lonely and boring is that? That’s part of the thing I love about the Faeries. Finding faerie community a couple years ago was like the ability to start dreaming collectively with people who want to play along.

BB: It was mostly such a beautiful joy, as dreaming usually is. It’s always a beautiful joy to make love through art. It is one of my favorite ways to make love with my friends.

QZ: I must say, this experience gave me insight into just how big my dreams have gotten and how many people truly share them. Yet, one of the criticisms I received from others on this project was that I didn’t own my decision-making power enough. That’s been hard for me to reconcile because I took a lot of advice from so many different contributors. I asked a lot of questions and actively listened to others’ suggestions so that the end result would be wiser and deeper. And no one person’s contribution was more important than anyone else’s. What mattered was how much responsibility one took, and how hard each of us worked to get things done.

BB: I struggle with ego in art. I’m trying to have very little of it if at all possible, especially in collective projects I’m involved in. It’s hard, though, when you’re also “in charge.” When your collaborators ask why you chose one technique or concept over another, it’s easy to become defensive.

But, on the day we were going to open and everybody was feeling the stress of being an art rock-star — under the pressure of being against a hard deadline, wanting to get it done, wanting it to be badass, wanting to be seen as real, legitimate artists — I got to be the one to say, let’s let go of that art-ego-stress and remember this is a community building project. And we got over it by playing in our pool of buttons together and reminding ourselves this was a labor of love.

FS: How was the creation of this forest a labor of queer love?

QZ: It wasn’t about just imagining the future given the current systems that we’re stuck in right now. We were asking specifically what could a queer future look like? How could we do things differently if we actually want to live in the world that we dream of?

In a queer future, our relationship structures will not be the way that they are in the dominant society now. The way we make decisions will be different. The way we take care of each other will be in a queer way. The way we feed each other, the way that we find rest and sustenance in each other, the way we create and build and work together, and grow and learn and transform together.

There’s an ecosystem to all this, in that every single organism has its place and it contributes something to the whole, and there’s this whole circle of life. An ecosystem is there to create and sustain life. A queer ecosystem creates queer life and sustains it queerly in some way.

FS: As the largest and most interactive element within this queer ecosystem, what part did the Ancestor Tree play?

BB: The world I came up in was disconnected from my own history, as was the case for most queer people. We were robbed of knowledge, guidance, inspiration, support, understanding. I wasted time growing up because no one was there to tell me that the person I was becoming was not a gay person at all. Nobody was there to say, “You are something else and you don’t have to settle for the suburban-pleasure-bunker dream-package.” No one was there to tell me that my parents were lying. No one was there to tell me it’s going to be okay.

QZ: I’ve been telling my own story just this way for a couple of years now. Growing up, I had no queer mentors. I didn’t even know I was queer. I’m not a lesbian in the typical sense of the word. My tastes are more about the energy of the other person and not about their gender. But, I didn’t have a language for any of that. I didn’t have a model for any of that.

BB: Because people don’t know their history, they don’t know about their present. I think of kids today who have HIV at the ripe old age of 20, and they act like they don’t have a care in the world. They can get their meds and their disability check, and that’s all there is to it. Not a thought is given about why they might get to live and who made that possible. Not a thought is given when they get online and start saying the most disgusting things about people who are older than them, making their elders feel completely unvalued, unattractive and disenfranchised. It never occurs to these young kids that the people they’re disparaging went to war, and they suffered and they almost all died. And these kids would be dead too, if it wasn’t for their bravery.

QZ: There’s no way to really look forward without understanding where we’ve come from, because we’re all part of a long continuum of things. If we want to move forward as a community, it’s important to remember where we’ve been.

FS: Did any particular visions of the future come to you through this project?

BB: The clearest vision I had was of us sleeping on the floor in our own space and feeling safe, able to find intimacy with each other because the door was closed and the magic was set. This is what we’ve created in the past, and we intend to create again. By we, I mean the full spectrum of radical queers who worked on this project. If there’s a future, we’re it, because we’re trying to reconcile who we truly are — fags, dykes, two-spirits, faeries, whatever you want to call us — with some of the most institutionalized traps of the past — the traps of heterosexual culture and the traps of capitalism. This has been happening in Radical Faerie sanctuaries for years, and it will continue for years to come. That’s the only future I’m even bucking for — one that looks a whole lot like us being our truest selves, unabashedly, without criticism or obstruction.

FS: So a queer future is one of safety?

BB: The safety of sanctuary is the future.

Frank Susa, better known by some as Sunbeam, is a writer, organizer, and fundraiser living in New York City. To learn more about The Forest of the Future, visit forestofthefuture.org.


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Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Dixon Place Presents: A "Pre-Tax" Benefit for ACT UP

Please come this Sunday. ACT UP New York needs your support. Donations will be tax-deductible. Cash, checks or charge cards accepted. More info at: actupny.com

ACT UP & OCCUPY!
TAX WALL ST.!
END AIDS!

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Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Tax Wall Street! END AIDS!

Speaking of the Occupy Wall St. phenomenon — allow me to draw your attention to something on the topic, something of global proportion and universal importance: the right of all individuals — of the 99%, not just the 1% — to lifesaving healthcare, especially in the case of preventable illness, including AIDS!

The AIDS Crisis isn't over.
 
Don't know what you've heard, but it's not.
It isn't over
 — but it could be!


And so — the infamous and influential AIDS activist group ACT UP has called for a massive demonstration and march on Wall Street on Thursday, April 25. It is ACT UP New York's 25th Anniversary this month, and on this anniversary they are pulling out all the stops. They are joining forces with OWS to form a united front in calling for universal healthcare, and the END OF AIDS!

This is the Call-to-Action, as articulated thus far:


ACT UP & Occupy!

Tax Wall Street!
END AIDS!


For now, to stay abreast of developments, I recommend checking
actupny.com for the latest. You can also follow @actupny on Twitter.

And needless to say, stay tuned right here for more as well! I am committed to see this call to action ECHO across the U.S. The action will be in New York but the need is global. America needs to lead, and the time is now. AIDS is now. END AIDS NOW!

ACT UP!
Fight back!

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Sunday, January 31, 2010

Many Gay Marriages Share an Open Secret


 by SCOTT JAMES
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/29/us/29sfmetro.html

When Rio and Ray married in 2008, the Bay Area women omitted two words from their wedding vows: fidelity and monogamy.

“I take it as a gift that someone will be that open and honest and sharing with me,” said Rio, using the word “open” to describe their marriage.

Love brought the middle-age couple together — they wed during California’s brief legal window for same-sex marriage. But they knew from the beginning that their bond would be forged on their own terms, including what they call “play” with other women.

As the trial phase of the constitutional battle to overturn the Proposition 8 ban on same-sex marriage concludes in federal court, gay nuptials are portrayed by opponents as an effort to rewrite the traditional rules of matrimony. Quietly, outside of the news media and courtroom spotlight, many gay couples are doing just that, according to groundbreaking new research.

A study to be released next month is offering a rare glimpse inside gay relationships and reveals that monogamy is not a central feature for many. Some gay men and lesbians argue that, as a result, they have stronger, longer-lasting and more honest relationships. And while that may sound counterintuitive, some experts say boundary-challenging gay relationships represent an evolution in marriage — one that might point the way for the survival of the institution.

New research at San Francisco State University reveals just how common open relationships are among gay men and lesbians in the Bay Area. The Gay Couples Study has followed 556 male couples for three years — about 50 percent of those surveyed have sex outside their relationships, with the knowledge and approval of their partners.

That consent is key. “With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating,” said Colleen Hoff, the study’s principal investigator, “but with gay people it does not have such negative connotations.”
The study also found open gay couples just as happy in their relationships as pairs in sexually exclusive unions, Dr. Hoff said. A different study, published in 1985, concluded that open gay relationships actually lasted longer.

None of this is news in the gay community, but few will speak publicly about it. Of the dozen people in open relationships contacted for this column, no one would agree to use his or her full name, citing privacy concerns. They also worried that discussing the subject could undermine the legal fight for same-sex marriage.

According to the research, open relationships almost always have rules.

That is how it works for Chris and James. Over drinks upstairs at the venerable Twin Peaks Tavern in the Castro neighborhood of San Francisco, they beamed as they recalled the day in June 2008 that they donned black suits and wed at City Hall, stunned by the outpouring of affection from complete strangers. “Even homeless people and bike messengers were congratulating us,” said Chris, 42.

A couple since 2002, they opened their relationship a year ago after concluding that they were not fully meeting each other’s needs. But they have rules: complete disclosure, honesty about all encounters, advance approval of partners, and no sex with strangers — they must both know the other men first. “We check in with each other on this an awful lot,” said James, 37.

That transparency can make relationships stronger, said Joe Quirk, author of the best-selling relationship book “It’s Not You, It’s Biology.”

“The combination of freedom and mutual understanding can foster a unique level of trust,” Mr. Quirk, of Oakland, said.

“The traditional American marriage is in crisis, and we need insight,” he said, citing the fresh perspective gay couples bring to matrimony. “If innovation in marriage is going to occur, it will be spearheaded by homosexual marriages.”

Open relationships are not exclusively a gay domain, of course. Deb and Marius are heterosexual, live in the East Bay and have an open marriage. She belongs to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and maintained her virginity until her wedding day at 34. But a few years later, when the relationship sputtered, both she and her husband, who does not belong to the church, began liaisons with others.

“Our relationship got better,” she said. “I slept better at night. My blood pressure went down.”
Deb and Marius also have rules, including restrictions on extramarital intercourse. “To us,” Marius said, “cheating would be breaking the agreement we have with each other. We define our relationship, not a religious group.”

So while the legal fight over same-sex marriage plays out, couples say the real battle is making relationships last — and their answers defy the prevailing definition of marriage.

“In 1900, the average life span for a U.S. citizen was 47,” Mr. Quirk said. “Now we’re living so much longer, ‘until death do us part’ is twice as challenging.”


Scott James is an Emmy-winning television journalist and novelist who lives in San Francisco.

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Monday, January 04, 2010

First-person Ugandan Perspectives

Wow - Listen to these first person perspectives coming from Uganda in response to recent anti-gay legislation. They are really astonishing! This NY Times media feature includes statements by a transgender man (f2m), a religious fundamentalist, a straight ally, and a gay rights activist.


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Friday, December 18, 2009

End the criminalization of HIV infection


Do you know that HIV isn't spread by spitting, and that condoms are an effective HIV prevention tool?

Of course you do.

But this information seems to be outside the knowledge of many in the legal system across this country, where the criminal prosecution of people living with HIV often continues to ignore the facts.

It's bad enough that the criminalization of HIV wreaks havoc in the lives of those who are charged or jailed or labeled as bio-terrorists, like this case in Michigan.

But these cases are also spreading misinformation about HIV -- scaring people away from testing, treatment and care, and feeding into HIV stigma.

TAKE ACTION:
I have endorsed a letter that will be sent to the CDC by the Community HIV/AIDS Mobilization Project, Project UNSHACKLE, and the HIV Prevention Justice Alliance, urging the CDC to take meaningful action to end the criminalization of HIV/AIDS infection.

Full history, details and links for further information and adding your endorsement are available at :
http://www.preventionjustice.org/blog/arrests-hiv-continue-cdc-must-act-sign

Please join me in endorsing the letter to CDC  asking them to keep their own promises to address HIV criminalization.


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